What's the craziest thing that you've
ever seen put into a pre-nup?
>> The craziest thing that was enforceable
was if for every 10 lb that she gained
during the marriage, she lost $50,000 in
alimony.
>> Well, I mean, you put on 50 lb, it's a
quarter million dollars.
>> Yeah.
>> That dramatic.
>> Yeah.
>> I mean, it's horribly cruel.
>> No, no, no, per year. Per year in
alimony. So, it's significant.
>> I've posed this question before, but if
you were with someone and for every 10
lb they gained, it unlocked a new, like,
never you could never imagine sexual
act, how heavy would you go?
>> [laughter]
>> AS LONG AS SHE'S HEALTHY AND HAPPY.
>> THAT'S WHAT I'M SAYING.
>> I said she could explore.
>> Yeah, I'd go big. I'd blow her up until
she pops.
>> [laughter]
>> My 800-lb wife.
>> Yeah, you'd be bringing bringing on
buttermilk. You'd be like, I want to see
what the I have no patience. I would be
like, I want this by Friday. I'm calling
in sick.
>> Yeah, grow your own wife.
>> I would just love to see Yeah, it'd be
fun to like get to that frontier.
>> I think the scarier question is if it
was for every 5 lb they lost, how thin
would you let them get?
Like, would you be like straight-up
just, you know,
>> They got to be happy They got to be
happy and healthy though.
>> like, where would you be going, you
know?
>> Yeah, I'm not There's a certain If I'm
seeing ribs, I'm like, I don't like
that. I don't like if I'm Women are too
bony. If I'm like, I don't like that
stuff.
>> no, yeah, that's not my
>> I like a nice stout. I want a stout
woman.
>> Yeah, yeah, yeah, Rubenesque.
>> Yes.
>> Like the guy from American Idol?
>> Who?
>> The
>> Ruben Studdard?
>> No, he's a He was a little heavier.
Ruben's um
That means Rubenesque, like the fat
little angels and I wonder if that's
where he got his name.
>> Wow.
>> That's exactly That's exactly [laughter]
what I'm going for.
>> Is that the guy you meant?
>> Yeah.
>> So, when when people say Rubenesque, you
think this guy?
>> of Ruben Studdard?
>> If they go
Rubenesque, I think of it.
>> Okay.
>> Because he has a stutter.
>> Does he stutter?
>> Yeah. Uh no, I think that's just his
surname.
Surname is last name, right?
>> Mhm.
>> Yes.
>> Thought so.
>> Yeah, yeah.
>> Uh I see.
>> like, cuz in the divorce papers it says
premarital surname.
>> You were talking about uh
women being told like you're a princess,
you deserve a lot.
>> Yeah, and I think they're coming into
prenups
coming
>> Coming into prenups nego- lady judge.
>> Uh
prenup negotiations.
>> a normal one.
>> No, is it a judge or a lady judge? Judge
or lady judge?
>> I can't By the way, I'm not going to
[ __ ] up in court.
>> [laughter]
>> Like I'm no longer going to be like,
"Lady your honor." I mean I'm sorry,
your honor. I'm sorry, your honor. I
apologize.
>> There's a There's a guy who is being
dragged online at the moment. His wife
was carrying kids, food,
drink. We have to watch this. It's the
funniest thing I've seen. So you're
talking about like women you deserve it
all. Well, this is
in some ways a woman who got it all, uh
but she's stuck in the stands at a
sports game. Uh here it is.
>> I mean she Wow, okay. She's got the
diaper bag. She's got the kid.
>> Oh, look. Yeah, his phone's plugged in.
That makes it quite a big difference cuz
he's out of charge.
>> Did I just hear that guy say
>> She's got three plates.
>> Did you forget something?
>> Yeah.
>> So he's getting he's getting kind of So
he's like modern Kevin Federline.
>> Yeah, well I mean like
>> Oh, there's much They went back to him.
Ah, he's going back to him. It's funny.
>> Goodness, are you kidding me?
>> Oh, he's complaining about his meal.
>> [laughter]
>> Did you forget something?
>> Oh, man.
>> Yeah, that's
uh I'll see that every now and again
though when I fly. You'll see the women
carrying all the gear sometimes.
>> I offered I offered to help. I often,
almost every time. Never takes me up on
it. They never take Never take up.
>> They get kind of particular though when
they fly. When you fly with a woman with
all like kid gear, they can get very
like
>> they are by themselves and there's so
much stuff and it's like I travel with
my dog and sometimes it's a little
inconvenient. I have so much empathy for
that. That seems so difficult. It's an
interesting thing when the response is
like I I ride the the all the time cuz
it's the fastest way to get anywhere in
New York. And I I was raised with you
give your seat to you know, a woman, any
woman, or like anyone who's older or
anybody So like an older man or
somebody.
And so anytime I'm sitting and then like
the car gets crowded and it's like a you
know, even a young woman,
you know, I'll I'll stand up and I'll
go, "Would would you like to sit?" And
it's like you get one of two reactions.
Like and and they're both fairly strong.
Like one is like the what now? Like like
you know. And the other is like oh
oh yeah. And they they they're like
almost kind of don't know what to do
with themselves. And then when they you
like leave they're like, "Thank you." or
whatever. They get such a like moved by
it. So it's interesting how polarized it
is that it's like there's no in between
of it. It's either like an extreme
reaction of like positive or an extreme
reaction of like, "Wait, what? No. Why?
Why would I Why would I you know, like"
Cuz I mean, technically I'm probably,
you know, older and more infirm I guess
than this young woman would be. But
there's just something sort of I I think
romantic about like that male like that
chivalry thing. I mean, I was raised in
that world and I think that there's
something to it, you know, but I
[snorts] I don't know. I I think there's
there's so much that's
In the prenups I'm doing right now, I
see a lot of young women coming in with
like a list of things that they're going
to demand.
>> What like?
>> More water for example?
>> Like they want a
>> Is that a hint?
>> Yeah, thank you.
>> So are they are they the ones the guy is
penning the prenup and they're like,
"Here are my conditions." or are women
hitting guys with prenups now? Like what
are
>> No, no. Women aren't hitting guys with
prenups. Cuz women are like I said,
generally economically
>> Ah yeah, yeah. So if the
So if the guy the guy the guy let's say
that on average your client's probably
the guy is the one that's coming in with
more money.
>> Usually with the prenup, yeah.
>> Yeah, but does the woman is the woman
able to say, "Well, here are some
demands that I've got."
>> Yes.
>> in this thing.
>> Yes, and it should be that. Like the a
prenup conversation should be that
conversation. It should be, "Hey, what
what what would we need?" Like I I
think, you know, when you love someone,
you're saying I want to protect your
heart, right? Even from me.
Like, if I screw this up, if this ends
somehow. Like, every marriage ends. It
ends in death or divorce. So, if this
doesn't end in death, if it ends in
divorce, which statistically is more
likely,
what do we owe each other? What would
you need? And I think most successful,
economically successful men,
if you say, you know, she's entitled to
one half of everything you have, it
would be like, well, that doesn't seem
necessarily fair. But, if you say she's
entitled to nothing, they'd be like,
well, that's not fair, either. Like,
she's making sacrifices and choices, and
there's things that like she's
diminishing her long-term economic
capacity
being a supportive other to me. So, but
what is what does she need? What would
she need to feel safe? Like, I don't
think you can feel loved if you don't
feel safe. I think both people should
feel safe. Like, safe that you're not
going to take tremendous economic
advantage of me, and safe that you're
going to, you know, that you're going to
be here and be present and love me, and
you know, that that you're not going to
leave me in the lurch if we split up and
take everything and
>> What are the What are the sort of
demands from the women?
>> I mean, I've seen some really
really baller ones, like where like
specifics of how much they want per
month as a personal care budget for
things like, you know, cosmetic stuff
>> During the marriage?
>> During the marriage, yeah.
>> ever do like, if you're like, for every
3 cm your penis shrinks as you age, I
get X more dollars? Or is there anything
superficial like that?
>> that happens with penises, but I don't I
don't know about
>> called buried
>> buried penile syndrome, which is
becoming increasingly
>> What do you mean?
>> Buried penile syndrome. It's when you
get so fat
>> Oh, yeah.
>> the male fupa, begins to like subsume
the penis. You know, like if you let
loads of grass grow up around a a rock,
and then the you'd be like, where's the
rock? And you go, it's there, but it's
just like you have to
little and yeah, I think 5% 5% of
American men can't see You know how
Peter Griffin, even when he's naked, is
never nude? And the same like, he's
always covered because he's got the gun.
>> You're really smart.
>> Thanks. He's got the gunt.
>> Yeah. Smarter than he needs to be.
>> You know what I mean? That's what I was
saying.
>> For a guy who could probably see all of
his penis.
>> Yeah, that's true. I most of it, you
know.
>> Why can't you see all of it? It's too
far away. The tip is too far away.
>> [laughter]
>> You're the man.
I mean everyone can push down on the
sides and get a little more.
>> I I when Yeah, absolutely. You know,
it's funny that you say that cuz a lot
of people don't know about that. And I
remember that so every now and then
there's conversations about how big your
weiner is and I always give two answers.
I give what it is and what it is if I
push the sides.
>> go.
>> Uh one of my friends used to take photo
You know the little cans of Diet Coke
that you can get on a plane? Like 175
mil. He used to take a photo of the that
would be somewhere in the photo for like
but you wouldn't You'd have turned it so
you wouldn't know it was a 175.
That's some [ __ ] 300 IQ. You talk
about me being smart.
>> What a bummer.
>> Holy [ __ ] dude. Full gazing.
>> When did When did prenups Were they
always around or like what's the history
of them? When did they come about?
>> been around a long time. Who invented
the prenup?
>> 1947 Germany 1497 Germany.
>> Wow.
>> 1467 Germany.
>> Um prenups prenups have been around a
long time. They've been enforceable in a
real way since the 1960s.
I they they really didn't get super
popular with the general population
until maybe like 20 years ago.
>> because the things changed or is that
because women started being respected a
little bit?
>> No, I I I think that it was a function
of that the
people started to see the marriage fail
rate being as high as it is and started
to say like okay, there's going to be a
rule set applied to this. Is it one that
we want written by the government or is
it one that maybe we want to write
together and stuff like that.
>> 1800s in England the total number of
divorces is like in 1890s one year the
total number of divorces was like five.
>> Yeah.
>> In all of England. So you just don't
need a function for is that's never
happening. You don't need protection
against something that's the tailest of
tail risk.
>> Yeah, but there were there were always
people that like went out for milk and
never came back.
>> Yeah.
>> Like that was like a a very like
relationships I mean I I always think
it's funny cuz people quibble with me
sometimes about
you know, like oh is the divorce rate
46% or is the divorce rate 50% and it
calculates in like well their second and
third marriages have a higher divorce
rate and then when you do the total
>> the the guys in the Navy SEALs have got
over 100% divorce rate.
>> How is that possible?
>> It's like when they say like somebody
washed 107% of my reels.
>> Well, they just looped it. Again, it's
the same guy going through a marriage
and then getting divorced again. Maybe
one like joke
>> Two marriages, two divorces comes to
100%.
>> Right, but it's one person.
>> Right, so you're pulling up the average.
You can say
>> Hey, there's a thousand guys. How many
divorces have there been?
>> Oh, divorces per person not divorces per
marriage.
>> Right. Yes, yeah. I mean that would be
actually I guess you could get married
again and then get divorced again.
>> Yeah, it's like padding your stats.
>> Yeah.
>> [laughter]
>> But people get very caught up in like
>> Or pushing their side of the
>> the divorce rate, but the truth is like
if if you're gauging the success of
marriage like okay, it didn't
catastrophically fail, which is what
divorce is. Like the wheels came
completely off and we're disbanding this
legally. But then there's like plenty of
people that they just never do the
paperwork and they just physically
separate and they just go okay, we're
just done. And then there's people that
just stay together miserable because
they don't even like each other, but
they either don't want to give up half
their stuff or they don't want to split
up their assets. They're guaranteed to
give them the house.
>> If you go out for milk Oh yeah, cuz
you're basically like widows.
>> Yeah, you're walking away. Yeah. But I
know a lot of guys who do that.
>> That's what you would do.
>> Like it's a very male walk away, give
them 100%.
Irish goodbye. It's all in your blood,
baby.
>> Irish goodbye means your marriage is
crazy.
>> Yeah, it's a [ __ ] cycle. An Irish
divorce when you you go out for milk and
never come back.
>> You just
>> [laughter]
>> you just leave.
>> Like you just bounce and then it's like
yeah, I'm not coming home no more. Like
that's it.
>> On the your partner gains 50 pounds
thing. If your partner gains 50 pounds
and you're no longer attracted to them,
do you think that you're allowed to say
it? Like, how do you broach that
subject?
>> You have an obligation to say it.
>> Yeah.
>> I think you have an obligation. Yeah, I
think you have an obligation to say it.
There's there's tact, I agree. And it's
not just about the weight. I mean,
that's a very pointed way of doing it,
but like
I would want a partner to keep me
accountable with certain things. Not
that that's their job, but that is a
value add. I And I've had that in in
relationships where it's like, do you
really need to eat that? I'm serious.
Like, I'm not saying don't eat that or
can't, and there's no shame involved. It
is looking out for my best interest. And
I think there's something very
superficial about the looks department,
but there's health involved to it and
attraction involved to it and and
uh hey, you know, I I
I'm I'm noticing I'm not Like, if if my
partner said
I I you're I you're very good-looking.
I'm still attracted to you. I love you
so much. I just like you haven't been
taking care of yourself in a certain
way. I just got to be honest with you.
>> lie, because you they've gained 50
pounds, and you're no longer attracted.
>> they gained 50 pounds, they gained one.
You got to get in there early.
>> Yeah, I
>> See, I think what people need to do in
relationship and the the the mistake
that most of the people who end up
sitting across from me, what they didn't
do
is when things change, cuz they will
change.
>> No way, dude.
>> You you have to say
like, you know, hey, let's notice that
this changed. Like, and just point it
out. Like, I think it's the difference
between a relationship that's designed
and a relationship that's on default.
Like, like what Okay, we're not having
sex as much as we used to.
Let's just point that out. Maybe it's
that our sex drives have changed. Maybe
we got kids now, and it's like, you
know, we're both a little all over the
place. Or maybe it's what Like, it could
be any number of things. Maybe you're
not feeling great about your body, I'm
not feeling great about Whatever it
might be. But like, let's just say it
out loud, because maybe we're both okay
with it. Like like, maybe you're putting
on weight, and you're like, yeah, I'm
I'm just like not stressed about
exercise anymore, and I just feel like I
want to take a break from that, and I
want to just like, you know, put on some
Okay. Like, maybe it's just something
that we're just going to both be cool
with and we'll talk about it that way.
>> have identified based on my example that
you're not cool with it.
>> Well, but I think before it's 50 pounds.
I think it would be like, "Hey, what's
going on? Like things are changing." And
I just want to point that out that
they're changing and is there is that
something that's going to have an impact
on us long-term?
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