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[@ChrisWillx] What Makes Someone Cool? (according to science)

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@ChrisWillx - "What Makes Someone Cool? (according to science)"

Link: https://youtu.be/v81BQiKQ6Zk

Short Summary​

Most Important Action Item/Takeaway:

Be authentic. Trying to be cool is counterproductive and can damage your credibility.

Executive Summary:

Coolness is less about manufactured image and more about intrinsic qualities like autonomy, adventurousness, and openness. While traits like extroversion and charisma can contribute, authenticity is key; attempts to fake coolness often backfire. Ultimately, genuine self-expression and originality are more effective in establishing a desirable presence.

Key Quotes​

Here are four quotes extracted from the transcript that represent particularly valuable insights:

  1. "So, the actionable thing about cool is like not talking."
  2. "Coolness works differently. If people think you're trying to be cool, you lose credibility."
  3. "Coolness in this sense might function as a kind of cultural status marker, a reward for being bold, open-minded, and innovative. It's not just about surface style. It's about signaling that you're actually ahead of the curve and that other people should pay attention."
  4. "The problem with cool people is they're unpredictable... Yeah, they do their own thing."

Detailed Summary​

Here's a detailed summary of the YouTube video transcript, focusing on the key topics and arguments discussed:

  • Initial Discussion: Coolness as Silence/Restraint:

    • The initial idea presented is that "coolness" is linked to not talking or over-explaining oneself.
    • The speakers admit they are "uncool" because they talk and think too much.
    • Trying to be cool often results in being "cringe" and inauthenticity.

  • Study on Coolness (5,000+ people in 12 countries):

    • Study reveals that "cool" has a surprisingly consistent meaning across diverse cultures.
    • Coolness seems to be tied to a specific psychological profile.

  • Key Traits of "Cool" People (According to the Study):

    • Extroverted: Outgoing and social
    • Hedonistic: Seeks pleasure and enjoyment
    • Adventurous: Takes risks, tries new things
    • Open: Curious and open to new experiences
    • Powerful: Influential and charismatic
    • Autonomous: Does things their own way

  • Aloofness and Rarity as a Factor:

    • Rarity and aloofness contribute to coolness (e.g., Denzel Washington not being on Instagram).
    • Too much accessibility can diminish coolness; something becomes boring when it is ubiquitous.

  • Cool vs. Good:

    • The study differentiated between "cool" and "good."

  • Traits of "Good" People:

    • Conforming, traditional, secure, warm, agreeable, universalistic, conscientious, and calm.
    • Reliable, predictable, and hardworking.

  • Key Differences Between "Cool" and "Good":

    • Cool people are unpredictable. Good people are more predictable and reliable.

  • Popularizing Cool & Counterculture:

    • The discussion touches on how "cool" can be commercialized and popularized, sometimes to the detriment of the original idea (e.g., Nirvana, the hippie movement) or the detriment of the artist.
    • Counterculture is often inherently "cool."

  • Overexposure and Loss of Coolness:

    • A clothing brand (Represent Owners Club) decided to discontinue a popular line to avoid overexposure and preserve its "cool" factor.
    • Too much exposure can diminish the aura of coolness.

  • Cool Friend vs. Good Friend:

    • The speakers ponder why people are drawn to coolness despite often preferring "good" qualities in friends.

  • Shared Attribute: Capability:

    • The study found that "capability" (power and conscientiousness) was the only attribute equally associated with both cool and good.

  • Authenticity is Crucial:

    • Trying to be cool usually backfires and hurts credibility.
    • Coolness is about autonomy, originality, and not caring about fitting in.

  • Coolness as a Social Function:

    • Coolness may be an adaptive social function, rewarding boldness, open-mindedness, and innovation.
    • Cool individuals can push boundaries and introduce new ideas.

  • Authenticity, Status and Respect:

    • To be respected for authenticity, status is required. The authentic self needs to be "worthwhile looking at".