Link: https://youtu.be/C1UkdE9_Iz8

Duration: 12 min

Short Summary

This episode explores the dynamics of courtship, masculinity, and the role of women as gatekeepers of sex. A 53-year-old man with 20 years of Brazilian jiu-jitsu experience shares how character and serious presentation, such as wearing suits, attract women. The discussion includes recommendations on relationship tools and health monitoring.

Key Quotes

1. "We've lost that progressive revelation, that teasing, that sort of playing of like, I'm going to show you a little and then I'll show you a little more and I'm going to give you a little and then I'll give you a little more." (00:02:31)
2. "Courtship is the period during which a woman works out if she can do better." (00:03:00)
3. "Good boy points will drive a man to do obscene things, especially from a beautiful, charming, beguiling woman that he's attached to." (00:03:10)
4. "Men will do what women demand of them in order to get laid. Women set the standards for sex and men meet them. Although this may be considered an unflattering characterization, we have found no evidence to contradict the basic general principle that men will do whatever is required in order to obtain sex. and perhaps not a great deal more." (00:05:17)
5. "through the heart of every man is the line of good and evil" (00:07:29)

Detailed Summary

Episode Summary: Courtship, Masculinity, and Health

Relationship Dynamics and Courtship

• Roy Balmeister asserts that courtship is a period where a woman evaluates if she can find a partner who does better.
• An article referencing 30 questions designed to make two people fall in love is available at chriswex.com/valentine.
• Supplemental relationship questions are provided by Tales and Steve from Diary of CEO to support couples.

Masculinity, Character, and Presentation

• A 53-year-old man, who trained in Brazilian jiu-jitsu for 20 years and earned a brown belt after 15 years, observes that women are attracted to his character and adherence to a code rather than just his looks.
• He received 15 taps in a single jiu-jitsu session, highlighting his dedication to self-improvement.
• Women historically act as gatekeepers of sex, requiring men to demonstrate resourcefulness, discipline, and seriousness.
• The speaker notes that wearing a suit signals a commitment to seriousness, similar to attire for job interviews or funerals, and conveys that the wearer takes their place in the world seriously.
• The combination of a suit and tattoos creates an attractive 'Clark Kent, Superman rolled into one' archetype, merging traditional masculinity with modern aesthetics.

Expert Insights and Recommendations

• Roy Bowmeister advocates for titrating the dose of sexual novelty over a long duration for men, based on research from a book published about 5 years ago.
• Bowmeister claims that men will do whatever is required to obtain sex, including becoming pillars of the community or amassing riches.
• A divorce lawyer has facilitated the demise of thousands of unhappy marriages by analyzing credit card receipts and text messages.
• Women are advised to take their role as gatekeepers seriously and hold men to a specific standard to avoid being disingenuous or sneaking in the 'back door'.
• Young men are encouraged to focus on the mission of becoming their best version by cleaning themselves up and presenting a put-together image.

Health and Performance Monitoring

• Sluggishness in men may be caused by testosterone levels, which play a crucial role in energy, focus, and performance.
• Function offers a service that runs lab tests twice a year to monitor over 100 biomarkers, providing actionable advice from expert physicians.
• Function provides a comprehensive blood panel analysis for $399 after a $100 discount, down from a standard cost of thousands or a regular price of $499.